Bridal Shower Gift and Wedding Gift

If you gave a Wedding Shower gift is it expected to also give a gift at the wedding?

Our Thoughts

Yes, a wedding shower gift and a wedding gift should be handled as two different things. If you are attending the wedding, plan on giving the couple a gift in addition to any gifts you gave at the bridal shower.

One thing to keep in mind is that you technically have up to a year after the wedding to give the couple a gift according to etiquette. So, if money is tight right now, give the couple a nice card on their wedding day, and let them know that a gift will be following soon.

To Your Wedding!
Danielle & Stephen

Bridal Shower Hostess Gift

by Vicky
(Chicago)

As a bride, do I give the hostess of my bridal shower a gift?

Our Thoughts

If you feel inclined because she is someone special to you, then by all means give her a thank you gift for throwing your bridal shower. It can be something simple just to acknowledge that you appreciate what she has done as a hostess.

Traditionally, however, you are not required to give the hostess anything but a huge hug. It is your day and traditionally all the gifts should really be just for you!

To Your Wedding!
Danielle & Stephen

Wedding Gifts And Bridal Shower Gifts

by Ms. Ann
(Dallas, TX, USA)

If you are invited to the brides shower and the wedding, is it appropriate to purchase two gifts?



Our Thoughts

Dear Ms. Ann,

The short answer is, yes. If you are invited to both the bridal shower and the wedding, you should purchase a gift for both.

It is good wedding etiquette to always show up with a wedding gift on the big day or to have a gift sent to the bride’s home. It is never a good idea to attend a wedding without giving a gift.


Regards,
Danielle

Wedding Shower Gift For Bride

My future daughter-in law lives out of state, so I will not be able to attend her wedding shower. Am I expected to send a gift?





Our Thoughts

An invitation to a bridal shower does not denote that you are obligated to send them a gift, but as the soon to be Mother-in-law you should definitely send a gift.

This will be your Daughter-in-law in a couple of months, so do the right thing and get off to a good start.

One thing to note is that a gift does not mean that it has to be expensive. Something thoughtful, with a hand written note of congratulations would be very personal and touching.

Also, do not confuse the shower gift with the wedding gift. They are two separate things and do not replace each other. In the end it is the thought that counts.

Regards,
Danielle

Wedding Shower Gift Etiquette

How should a wedding shower gift from the bridegroom’s grandmother be addressed? To both the bride and groom or just the bride?

Our Thoughts

The meaning of a wedding shower or bridal shower is a celebration for the bride, so the gifts are usually addressed to the bride only.

In recent years couples wedding showers have become very popular, especially for second marriages. At couples wedding showers both the bride and groom attend, and it is generally accepted that the gifts are for both the bride and groom.

To Your Wedding!
Danielle & Stephen